Woman About Sex

Obviously, the path to sexual pleasure and orgasm differ for men and women. For women, there’s so much more to sex than just having an intercourse. Only one in four women can have an orgasm during intercourse without some additional stimulation. That’s why most of them find that they receive more rewarding pleasure and orgasms by lots of kissing, inner thighs stroking, breast fondling and using plenty of tongue AND fingers on and in her “hole of holes”, the pussy. Believe me, using fingers outside and inside her pussy, can make a woman more than satisfied, because what a woman feels during an intercourse isn’t just what she may feel during manual stimulation.

Direct, consistent and skilled pussy fingering can give a woman the best orgasm of her life. Now, isn’t that worth reading on? ;-)

So, today we’re going to learn more about pleasing a woman not by sticking your gorgeous dick or a sex toy inside her hotness. We’re going to learn how to bring your lady to those orgasmic heights by just using your strong and gentle FINGERS. Let me share with you some very effective fingering techniques and essential sex tips for making your finger action an enjoyable experience for both of you.

WHAT IS PUSSY FINGERING?

Pussy Fingering (also known as “finger fucking”, “finger banging”, “giving a woman a handjob”) is using your fingers to stimulate a woman’s Holy of Holies, her pussy and its beautiful surroundings. Thus, female sexual fingering is manual manipulation of the vagina, vulva, clitoris or anus for the purpose of arousal and orgasm. Pussy Fingering is analogous to the handjob, manual stimulation of the penis, and is a common form of foreplay and mutual masturbation. Digital penetration is penetration with one or more fingers.

BUT do not think that this is as easy as it sounds. Fingering a woman is an art that involves much more than just ramming your fingers inside her and moving them in, out and around.

THE BENEFITS OF PUSSY FINGERING

Unfortunately, most men do not fully recognize the benefits of pussy fingering. The main idea of this sexual act is a constant and direct stimulation of the clit and the g-spot, because through the intercourse, it’s difficult to properly stimulate these magnificent erogenous zones of women. Believe it or not, the stimulation of the g-spot and the clit can lead a woman to her best orgasms ever. Of course, assuming the giver has good skills, enthusiasm, practice and A LOT of patience.

So, how to finger a woman in a way that felt really pleasurable and wouldn’t hurt her? Well, it’s not as easy as it sounds, but it’s definitely worth the work.

Before you get to work, here are THE BASICS you need to keep in mind:

SAFETY
Before you put your hands on and in a woman’s love box, always make sure your hands and fingers are thoroughly washed with soap and warm water; clean under your fingernails and trim your nails short so they don’t scratch your lady’s beautiful flower. Otherwise, your fingering experience will result in a serious infection!

ONE MORE SAFETY TIP
This one really needs to be mentioned as well. Keep in mind that once your fingers or a sex toy has been inside her anus, DO NOT put them into her pussy until you wash them. Again, it may lead to infection!

FOREPLAY
Before you start fingering your girl, make sure she is “ready”. I mean relaxed, wet and aroused. Always keep in mind that in order to make any sexual experience fully pleasurable for a woman, she has to be wet and aroused, whether you use your hands or your dick.

LUBRICATION
Just as lubrication is crucial to anal sex, it is crucial to any type of fingering. Although we all know that a woman’s pussy is self-lubricating, some extra lubrication might also help in making a finger play more comfortable and effective (especially, if your lady doesn’t have a lot of her own natural juices). For a fingering session, choose a water-based or a silicone-based lubricant. Avoid oil-based lubricants, as oil leaves a thin film of grease on the sensitive vaginal tissues. This can lead to irritation and tiny cuts to occur over time. And a tiny cut is all that is needed to allow bacteria in. Also, remember that oil-based lubricants can break down latex (in case you use gloves or a condom).

SEXUAL FINGER-SUCKING
Even if you do not use a lubricant and your lady has enough of her own vaginal juices, still, you need to make sure your own fingers are lubricated too. Ok, you can make your fingers wet with your mouth. BUT, you better ask your lady to suck on them! It will be an incredibly erotic thing to see and a great turn-on, for both of you. I promise.

TALKING DURING THE ACT
The biggest turn-off you can do while fingering your woman is looking like you’re doing some kind of a hard job or a brain surgery. Once you get your fingers in, don’t focus on them the way toooo intensely. Relax and try to talk to your lady. Tell her how it feels for you to have your fingers between her pussy lips; ask her what feels good; pay compliments to her pussy. That will show her that you are having fun doing that for her and aren’t, well, bored. Just smile and enjoy the fact that your woman’s body is under the command of your FINGERTIPS!

WHEN FINGERING THE CLITTY
Hopefully, you already know that, dear men, but I want to point it out again: the clitoris is a small bundle of nerve endings and you don’t have to press on it hard to make it feel good. Do it softly, slowly, and very, very gently. In fact, a light and delicate touch produces a nicer sensation than a rough and firm one. And one more tip for you. When fingering or licking a woman’s clit, there are three main types of motions you can use there: up-and-down, side-to-side and circular. In fact, up-and-down motion usually works better than the latter two.

ACTION AND SENSATION
When your naughty fingers start their journey inside her hotness, always keep in mind that, in fact, the most pleasurable sensation doesn’t come from in-out action. Actually, it comes from a proper pressure and gentle rubbing of the vaginal walls and spots inside and outside the vag.

Okay, she’s all wet and bothered, all hot and waiting. Now what? Now you’re welcome to “come inside” with all the below tricks and techniques! Give your lady a hand… in all senses! :-)

PUSSY FINGERING TECHNIQUES

1 – Gently massage the pubic mound
Before even touching her pussy, start by caressing her stomach and the navel. Then move your fingers to tease her pubic area. Touch and knead the mound where her pubic hair is. Play with her pubic hair. Feel the softness of each hair. Massage and squeeze the whole area with your whole palm and press gently.

2 – Stroke the pussy lips as if it were the petals of a flower
Before playing with her clitty, spend some time stroking her outer labia. Be delicate and try to do it as light as you can. Touch her pussy lips so gently and so softly, as if it were the petals of a flower. Pull gently on the outer lips and then the inner. Spread her pussy lips with your fingers, and move one finger up and down her pussy, barely touching the area surrounding that wonderful love-button, the clit.

3 – Explore the clitty
The clitoral sensitivity varies greatly from woman to woman. With this in mind, start by making small circles surrounding the clit and watch your woman’s reaction. Place the tip of your index finger on top of her clitoral hood. Then, tickle the clitty as light as you can. Tap on the clitoris with one or two fingers, gently and rapidly. Slowly massage and grasp the loose skin covering the body of her clit and slide your fingers back and forth along the shaft. Slowly. But in a steady rhythm. Now, if your lady’s feedback is positive, you may gently increase the amount of speed and pressure you are applying.

4 – While fingering the clit, tickle the vaginal opening
Now, while fingering the clit, you can also provide a vaginal massage! While one hand stimulates her clitoris, the other can be used to glide along the vaginal opening. Or, you can also use one hand only. Place your thumb on her clitoris and your index finger on her vaginal opening and stimulate both simultaneously!

5 – Twist at the wrist
This one may be quite enjoyable for her as well. So, gently insert one naughty finger into her hot and wet pussy! Then insert a second. Start massaging her inside in and out while twisting at the wrist. Gently, softly, playfully. Move your fingers around in her vag, explore the wetness, enjoy the softness! While doing this, try to maintain eye contact with your lady as much as possible! She is likely to find this act very erotic!

6 – Slide-n-Glide technique
This one is absolutely amazing, believe me. If you use your fingers in the “right” way, of course. To make this technique especially pleasurable for your woman, you will need some extra lubrication. Now, if all is hot, wet and lubricated, place your index and middle fingers pointed downwards towards the vagina, one on each side of the clit (so that the clit gets squeezed between your index and middle fingers) then glide down and dip your fingers into her pussy. Now glide your fingers up to where you started, now glide your fingers down and dip them inside. Glide up, slide down inside her. Keep repeating!

7 - Discover that tricky g-spot
Yes, now we’re going to discover that tricky g-spot area. Have your lady lying on her back, and with your palm facing up slide two fingers inside her! With your fingers about two or three inches inside her pussy, gently try to make a “come here” motion with your fingers! Now keep making “come here” motions, press, rub, wriggle and vibrate your hand to give your lady multiple sensations! With practice, patience and communication, I’m sure you’ll find that highly sensitive pleasure-zone which is located on the front wall of the vagina, about two or three inches in.

8 - G-spot: THUMB action in the doggy position
In fact, the best and most effective sexual position to fully explore the g-spot zone, is the doggy-style position. Now get your THUMB ready for a journey. Have your sweetheart lying on her stomach with hips elevated with a pillow and legs open wide. Or, ask her kneel on all fours in the doggy position and tell her push her hips back so you can have an easy access to her magnificent g-spot. Insert your sweet thumb into her. Press onto her g-spot and rub the pad of your thumb back and forth. Try to find a slightly bumpy or ridged area. Give it a firm and consistent massaging, because unlike the clit, the g-spot often responds to a firm pressure and quite strong stimulation! Just a note: feel for the ridges on the roof of your mouth, just behind your upper teeth. The g-spot area will feel somewhat analogous to what you feel touching the ridges in your mouth.

Well, Sexies, a sure way, and often the only way, to figure out how to give and receive great pussy fingering is through practice, communication, open minds AND masturbation. Dear women reading this, help your men to learn how to please you with their fingers! Join in the fun and show him how to play with your beautiful “lotus flower”! That would be an incredibly erotic, highly intimate and helpful thing for both of you.

What I have presented today are basic pussy fingering techniques which every man (or woman) should try out (at least once) with a woman he/she is with. And of course, not all women are going to respond to all the above techniques, because there is a great variability in sensitivity of the clit and the g-spot. Therefore, with your help, your own woman will discover what feels best exactly to her!

Keep your fingers busy and show her what you can do with them! ;-)

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