Woman About Sex

As I said in my previous post on men’s mistakes in bed, men are not the only guilty ones when it comes to sex mistakes. Of course, although women less likely than men to repeat the same mistakes over and over again, they also do lots of things that can turn a man off in the bedroom. Moreover, women do more mistakes than men. It’s because we women are seen as the more emotional ones and tend to think too much and worry more than men, especially when it comes to things “naked” and sexual.

The following is a checklist for ladies; the list of things many women are probably doing wrong when it comes to sex with a man (based on my personal experience, the experiences of other women and men). I do not want to speak for all women, I just post my point of view with a guess that most women would agree to. Of course, these aren’t the only things many of us probably shouldn’t do between the sheets, but these are basic mistakes that are head and shoulders above the rest and might be a real turn off for a man you are with.

Avoid the things below, and make sure they don’t happen to you!

Expecting him to think like a woman and read your mind

Men and women don’t think the same way. Men can’t think the way women think. That’s the natural difference between the sexes. Therefore, do not expect him to read your mind, just be open, and tell him directly what you want and how you want it. Sure, it can be very difficult to express your sexual needs directly, but men won’t know until you say. In general, most men tend to prefer the direct approach and getting to the meaning of things. They do not like to read hints about things and many of them just can’t read your body language during sex. Think of it this way: we women are so unpredictable and mysterious even to ourselves – no wonder it is hard for men to understand us! Anyway, try to communicate and fit to a particular situation. This brings us to the next mistake women might do…

Playing dead: being unresponsive and silent during sex

Playing dead in bed is bad. Men want women who are hot and responsive during lovemaking. Of course, you knew this. So, stop playing dead, stop playing a good girl, stop just lying on bed with your legs open, and not making any noises at all. Communicate during sex in verbal and non-verbal ways; use sexy words and pleasure sounds; give him compliments; give him instructions; scream his name; guide his hands; talk dirty to him! If you are not feeling comfortable doing all that, just say him something simple like “faster”, “harder”, “softer”, “love you” – sometimes it may be enough to make him feel happy with you right now. Your man will really enjoy and appreciate it when you express your pleasure. Well, of course, if you really get that pleasure.

Being too critical of your own body

One of the biggest mistakes women can make is letting insecurities about their body image to kill the mood to have sex. In general, women’s unhappiness with their body can ruin their sex life. For many women, body image is a constant struggle. And I know very few women who are comfortable in their own skin. Believe it or not, even the most confident woman is most often a bit uncomfortable with her body. Women’s unhappiness with their body image makes some women to hide a “hated” part of their body while having sex or have sex with the lights off.

And you know, convincing us women to totally accept our bodies is almost impossible. But we women should remember that men are much less critical of female body than we are. Yes, men are turned on visually. Still, they are not taking our body so serious as we do. Being too insecure – makes you less attractive to men. So, try to relax. I’m not saying you stop improving your body shape and exercising, I just want you to take a realistic look at your body. Your body is not so horrible, really. For example, if you think your breasts are small, your man probably quite likes it and wants the lights on because of your lovely breasts! Please stop wasting time judging yourself. Just stay always feminine and try to look your best in your own skin. And, if showing your body to your man is still embarrassing to you… just have sex!!! Sex is one of the best ways to improve your body image!

Expecting him to be romantic, sweet and understanding lover all the time

One more common mistake women make is expecting a man to be romantic, sweet and understanding lover all the time he has sex with you. There are women who want to “make love” every time – sweet, slow lovemaking with foreplay, lots of romantic eye contact and deep kissing. Yes, of course, it’s great, amazing, erotic, and very important to make love this way, because the longer it takes us to get warmed up, the more intense our orgasm can be. BUT. Sometimes, men feel really wild and animalistic and just wanna fuck. And remember: just because he wants some furious quickie, doesn’t mean he doesn’t love you! It means you look so damn sexy that he wants you right here and right now. Occasionally, a man enjoys spontaneous sex and quick sex with a little roughness and without long foreplay and all that romantic stuff. So keep that in mind.

Thinking it’s his “job” and “duty” to give you orgasm

Many women think that it is their “duty” to get their partner to ejaculate. And they also think it’s his “duty” to give her orgasm. In fact, both lovers are responsible for their own orgasms! Woman’s sexual arousal and orgasm is a complex process involving the efforts and actions of both lovers. So, dear ladies, remember that you are also responsible for your own orgasms. If you can’t orgasm, instruct your man how to help you, what to do and how to do it, show him, guide his hands and take matters into your own hands. Next time, he won’t disappoint you. He will make you enjoy sex enough to orgasm.

Not initiating sex

Most of women have this way of thinking that a man is responsible for initiating sex all the time. Yes, women tend to be less comfortable initiating sex. However, a woman who can make the first move and take the lead, from time to time, can be a real turn-on to a man! Of course, I’m not talking about jumping your man’s bones the minute you decide to initiate sex, but I’m talking about passionate kissing, erotic massage, sexy games, caressing him softly or anything else playful and creative letting him know that you want him right now!

Thinking too much during sex and taking things sexual the way too seriously

Do you know why it is harder for women to reach an orgasm? Believe it or not, one of the reasons many women can’t receive orgasm is that women think too much during sex. For example, while having sex, a woman might worry about what her butt looks like from behind. She might think about what she looks like in this or that sexual position. She might worry about the body hair (especially on her belly and near the nipples). And things like body smell, pussy look, smell and taste, pubic hair, or the vagina sounds that she simply can’t control during sex. Therefore, because of her thoughts, she can’t get into the proper mindset for an orgasm. And, as we all know, the most important sexual organ in the human body is the mind. If your mind is “busy” during lovemaking, it is not free enough to get pleasure! The thing is that sex is about getting lost in the moment, and not thinking about what your body looks like in this or that position, what you should do or what you should feel. I encourage you to “be in the moment” and just feel! Remember, good sex is the sex when you can’t think at all. But if you really can’t “turn off” your mind, then think about the dirtiest things ever! Try it tonight and enjoy!

Well, dear ladies, find yourself doing the above things?

Now, it’s the time for you to make improvements and bring some changes! Girls, enjoy sex to its fullest, bring out your inner goddess and make your man feel the happiest ever! And you’re likely to be very happy, too!

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