Woman About Sex

Yes, yes, of course, you are not the only guilty ones, dear men. Surely, we women also make many mistakes when it comes to sex and we also do all kinds of things that can turn a man off in the bedroom. But we less likely than men to repeat the same mistakes over and over again ;) So today we are going to talk about the most common mistakes many of you guys make in bed and some hints on what you should do instead.

What follows is a list of things many men are probably doing wrong when it comes to sex with a woman, according to my personal experience and the experiences of other women. Of course, these aren’t the only things many women find annoying, but these are common mistakes many men tend to repeat with women over and over. These are mistakes that can be a real turn off and stand head and shoulders above the rest.

I think that every man should read this to discover what these mistakes are and what you can do about them if you find yourself doing these things. Perhaps, this list will tell you why she is mad at you sometimes and why, from time to time, you hear those classic “I’ve got a headache”, or “I’m tired”, or “I’m PMS-ing” excuses. Below are the basic no-no’s and common turn-off’s that I can think of. Hopefully, this will help a lot of men to improve their bedroom manners and avoid doing these mood-killing things in bed with a woman. If your check list contains all of these… well, I highly recommend that you begin changing some of the things you do, before it’s too late. Trust me on this guys, there is nothing worse than a lover who does not care about his woman’s sexual needs and her pleasure. Be a man that women crave in the bedroom, okay? Now read on… Make sure they don’t happen to you.

“Did you come yet?”

Asking her whether she has orgasmed yet or not – this is a really annoying thing some men do in bed and one of the most inappropriate questions to ask her half-way through sexual intercourse. It disturbs the rhythm and becomes a real passion-killer for many women. I know that it is not always easy to tell if a woman has had an orgasm. Moreover, some women themselves just can’t tell if they had an orgasm. So what should you do guys? Yes, the only way to know for sure is to ask and to talk. BUT you may ask her any questions after the “party”. Simply by having an open conversation with your woman, you will be able to fully satisfy her and find out if she is having orgasms with you or not. Have her tell you what feels good and what does not; ask her how you can best help her to have an orgasm. And, by the way, just making the effort to talk about her sexual needs and having a caring conversation with her is another way to arouse your woman and make her orgasm! What else? One of the things for you to do next time you make love is to pay attention to her “body language”, body signals, sounds, movements.

Intercourse is not the time to play 20 Questions

Too much talk leads to not enough action. Please, stop asking every other minute: Is this right? Is it good? Do you like this? Do you like that? What do you want me to do now? What do you want me to do next? Some men have this strange habit of asking his woman lots of questions in the middle of the process. Lovemaking is not the time for a running conversation. Yes, hearing your man’s sexy voice and talking during sex is great and even necessary, but that should be a sex talk, or a dirty talk, not an exam. It kills the mood having sex with a real chatterbox. There are moments during sex when the words (suggestions, instructions or comments, etc) may ruin the orgasm build-up. So, how much talk is too much talk during sex? You won’t know until you ask your own woman.

A rough touch to the clit – one of the biggest turn-offs that should be avoided at all costs

Another annoying tendency men have is being rough with the clitoris. Want to know the perfect way to perform oral sex on your lady? Please, do not go straight for the clitoris during oral sex. Start by massaging and kissing the inner thighs. Next, caress the pussy lips and the vaginal entrance with your tongue. Then, as she gets more aroused, you can touch that sensitive love button. But please do not press too hard. Just think about it, the clitoris has twice as many nerve endings as your penis. So, just imagine how painful a careless touch can be. Keep it light until your woman asks for more. Also, do not… bite the clit. A small and playful nibble while you suck and lick might be okay, but do not bite our love bud. Do you like teeth used on your dick? I don’t think so. And while on the subject of sexual touches, please be very gentle with manual stimulation of her pussy and anus. One more no-no with a woman is that after you place your naughty finger into her anus, you cannot place that same finger into the pussy – it may lead to infection.

Women are more than a lovely pair of breasts and a pussy

Guys, another no-no thing for you to do during sex is ignoring the other parts of your woman’s body. Many men seem to focus their attention more on the pussy and the breasts (which certainly shouldn’t be ignored), but the whole woman’s body deserves your attention! We have many more erogenous zones that are no less sensitive and responsive to fondling. The neck, the back, inner thighs, the stomach are very sensitive spots many women may like to be touched and kissed. Don’t make the mistake of making her breasts and pussy the only stop on your way to her pleasure. And speaking of women’s breasts… Of course, every woman has different likes and dislikes when it comes to breast and nipple play. Many women enjoy having their nipples pinched, squeezed and sucked very hard. But don’t overdo it. Stop chewing, biting, twiddling, and squeezing TOO hard. I believe most women (who aren’t into a rough breast play) will agree that at the heat of passion you sometimes squeeze our breasts too hard. How would you feel if she squeezed your balls that hard? As well as the clitoris, our breasts and nipples should be handled with care.

So there you have them – the top things men are doing wrong in bed with a woman. As I have said before, these things are far from being a complete list and there is more to come on this topic. But one nice thing that I have learned from my personal experience and the conversations with other women is that no man is the perfect lover; no woman either.

No one is perfect, and only those who never do anything, never make mistakes! The idea is that you should try (at least) to avoid doing those things that can be a real turn off for a woman.

Remember, a sexually satisfied woman is a happy woman. A satisfied and happy woman is going to be more interested in making her man satisfied and happy too! Well, dear men, the rewards are definitely worth the efforts ;)

Until next time, sweethearts! Enjoy yourselves, improve your bedroom manners and stay safe!

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Delicious, arousing, orgasmic moans. Taking your breath away!.. I’ve been thinking a lot about moaning and groaning while having sex, because I can hear my neighbors having too loud sexy time lately. Well, they are a sweet young couple and just got engaged. I don’t know if they realize that they can be heard, but I think they just don’t care about it. Actually, that’s not a problem for me because, well… they’ve probably heard my passionate noises too. So I am just happy that they are enjoying a healthy relationship. *wink*

I thought back to all the times I had sex and what comes out of my own mouth during lovemaking. And, must admit, I am a moaner. I moan involuntarily – it just comes out naturally, even when I try not to. I moan because it feels damn good, thrilling, powerfully stimulating. Also, it is incredibly sexy and thrilling to hear my man expressing his pleasure in audible ways. His “body language”, facial expression, moans, sighs, ah’s and ya’s just let me know what he is feeling and enjoying. You see, it makes my own pleasure a thousand times more intense! That’s why, to me, there’s nothing worse than the quiet sex.

So, why do we moan during sex?

What is the origin of moaning/groaning as a response during sex?
The sexy sounds, moans and groans we make during lovemaking are a part of our nature. It’s like the smiling when we are happy and the crying when we feel pain. It’s like when your hair or head is stroked and you let a light “mmm” come out. Sexual moaning is something that comes naturally and sounds louder and… sexier (if a one is not faking it or doing on purpose). The moaning and groaning during sex may well come from our animal roots. Sex itself is an expressive experience and the time when we let the hair down and… unleash our inner animal.

And… by the way, EVERYONE has a wild side. Even those lovers who stay silent during sex.

Why we moan and groan during lovemaking?
It is the way of communication during sex and expressing what one feels. For most lovers, being vocal and making noise, such as moans, groans, screams is one of the ways to express sexual pleasure. If it is not faked or done purposely, then the moaning and groaning during intimacy is an uncontrollable (I repeat, uncontrollable and natural) result of sexual pleasure and orgasm. On the physical level, the moans and groans we make while having sex are related to the muscular contractions that accompany sexual pleasure and arousal.

There are at least five possible reasons we usually moan and groan while having sex:
1. Being vocal (moaning, groaning, screaming) in the heat of passion is one of the non-verbal ways of communication during lovemaking; it is letting your partner know about your sensations and feelings, and how good it feels right now!
2. For most lovers, the moaning during sex is a natural thing they just CAN’T STOP doing while having a good time!
3. Being vocal and audible during intimate moments usually means a moaner feels free, relaxed and comfortable about himself/herself and the sex itself, and completely comfortable and relaxed with his/her partner
4. The moaning, groaning and deep breathing accentuates, enhances and increases the pleasure and sexual arousal of the moaner and that of the partner
5. The moaning and screaming during sex is an indication of approaching or experiencing the big O, the crucial moment, the most intense peak of sexual pleasure: orgasm or ejaculation!

Different ways and types of sex moans. How do you moan?
Now onto the types of sexual moans. Well, although I have a lot of different thoughts and lots of conflicting feelings about this entire play, but here is a short clip from the Vagina Monologues entitled “The woman who loved to make Vaginas happy”. It’s about a woman who used to be a lawyer, but is now a sex worker who works exclusively with women because she likes the way women moan. While many of the monologues touch on serious issues, several of them also use humor. In this part of the play, a female actor humorously demonstrates various types of moans. Of course, all lovers make different sex sounds and moan in different ways. The thing is that I don’t want you to be so funny in your moaning session like this female actor. Yup, moaning during sex is fun, and it’s a turn on, but faked moaning or funny moaning also tends to be a turn-off. *wink*.

Enjoy!

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The Clit Moan
The Vaginal Moan
The Combo Clit Vaginal Moan
The “Almost” Moan
The “Right-On-It” Moan
The Elegant Moan
The Grace-Slick Moan
The WASP Moan
The Jewish Moan
The African-American Moan
The Irish-Catholic Moan
The Mountaintop Moan
The Baby Moan
The Doggy Moan
The Uninhibited Militant Bisexual Moan
The Machine-Gun Moan
The Tortured Zen Moan
The Diva Moan
The College Moan
And finally…
The Surprise Triple Orgasm Moan

Although these were female types of moans and demonstrated by women, but I think some men also might have done some of it *wink*

Do all lovers make passionate noises and moan during sex?
Well, everyone has their own way of enjoying intimacy. And there are lovers who prefer to be quiet in bed. Some lovers may be enjoying the moment so much and feeling an intensely pleasurable sensation, so that they do not feel like vocalizing their pleasure and making any noise at all. Indeed, sometimes the pleasure becomes so intense that it takes your breath away and makes you silent, so you can listen your own body and experience all the sensations that are rippling through your flesh! And if your lover stays silent, it doesn’t mean he/she isn’t enjoying! Just like anything in life it’s an individual thing and a personal preference.

Also, whether you’re silent or noisy during sex, depends on the degree of your sexual tension and the stage of your orgasm. Once the stage called “the point of no return” is reached, many of those of the quieter type immediately turn into passionate moaners and crazy screamers! (*wink*).

Men and Moaning
It seems like men tend to be more visual creatures, and women more vocal. And, from personal experience, I’ve noticed that men tend to be quieter during sex, while women tend to be more vocal, more demonstrative and noisy. We women usually moan during the entire process. Men are often quiet until that happy point. Don’t know if some men suppress it, but we women want you guys to be more open and express your pleasure in audible ways. Guys, if you think that moaning is unmanly or “less macho”, you’re wrong, it can be very sexy and stimulating for most of women! But, of course, if your moans come naturally and sound, well… masculine. We don’t want to hear the faked or forced moans, like those we hear in the pornographic movies.

Do not force yourself or fake it! Do what feels natural!
As I mentioned earlier, whatever you do – it should be genuine. Do not fake moans or groans or anything in sex. It can be almost scary and silly. A partner who is faking pleasure may be the greatest turn-off imaginable. If you really feel good and pleasurable, you simply can’t help but emit those sexy oh’s and ah’s. Even if you bite the pillow and try staying silent. As I mentioned above, screaming, biting, scratching, crying, moaning and groaning, and other audible cues are naturally coming and uncontrollable indications of pleasure. Again, do not fake anything in sex, even if you are really excellent at faking. At least, if you have to fake some moans or an orgasm, do it under exceptional circumstances, okay? ;)

The sounds we make during lovemaking are very sexy! And EVERY ONE of us has the MOAN-ZONES! Even those folks who don’t make a single peep during sex. Got the idea?

So… GOOD MOANING TO EVERYONE!

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Luckily for us women and contrary to our popular belief that men are uncaring and insensitive towards our sexual needs, there are loads of things men actually want to know about our sexuality. What are women’s turn-ons; what we want in bed; what do we fantasize about; what and where is the g-spot; what we like and don’t like about men… and so on. Very few men are comfortable asking a woman what feels right to her and what she wants sexually. Still, there are a thousand questions men ask women or want to ask. And one of the most popular questions I get often is: “Is it true that there are women that can achieve orgasm through breast stimulation alone?”

Now, for the benefit of everyone, and as a happy woman who can achieve orgasm via breast fondling, I’ve decided to spill the beans about what is the breast orgasm and what it takes for your woman to have it…

Want to know what does it feel like?

Well, this is a hard question to answer. The breast induced orgasm is totally different from a clitoral or vaginal orgasm. During the correct stimulation, the strongest feeling of arousal and sexual energy is concentrated in breasts and nipples area. The pleasure-building starts in the breasts and then a current moves down straight to pussy, so you can feel the arousal in the clit. It is an extremely powerful, body-shaking, sharp and delicious feeling. Taking your breath away. It’s a feeling that makes you want more and more and more, and at the same time you want to stop being stimulated. If you don’t believe me, try it out yourselves and you’ll see what I mean *wink*.

Breast orgasm is not all about the breasts. It is also about a woman’s mindset!

Of course, there are some psychological factors behind the breast orgasm. The breast orgasm is not all about the lovely pair of breasts and sensitivity. Breast orgasm is also in the mind. Whether breast and nipple caressing is arousing or not depends on the woman’s mindset. So if your lady believes breast play is sexually stimulating and arousing, then it can be arousing and can lead to breast induced orgasm. If it is a sexual situation, the setting is right and relaxing, the lover is caring, skillful and understanding of how women work physically and emotionally – then the higher the chances of your sweetheart lady reaching an incredible, fantastic, extremely powerful breast orgasm! However, remember that all women are different, and what works for one woman may not work for another.

The breast induced orgasm: what it is

The breast orgasm is a female orgasm that happens at the peak of stimulation of a woman’s breasts and nipples. Not only the female breasts are a major source of attraction for men and many women, these lovelies are also incredibly sensitive and have their own erotic potential. Is every woman able to have breast orgasm? Unfortunately, a few women can reach orgasm just by having their breasts stroked. However, according to one study that questioned 213 women, 29% of them had experienced a breast orgasm at one time or another. This shows that it is not common, but it is certainly possible!

What happens during breast fondling?

In many women, breasts and nipples are the second most erogenous area of the body next to that between her legs. Structurally, breasts are made up of fibrous connective tissue and a layer of fat tissue, rich in blood and lymph vessels. The nipples, in particular, are composed of smooth muscle fiber and supplied with numerous nerve endings and touch receptors closely underlying the surface of the skin and making them especially sensitive to touch. The nipple region, the areola and the underside of the breast are usually the most sensitive areas of a woman’s breast.

Being glandular organs, woman’s breasts are highly sensitive to hormonal changes in the female body, and like I mentioned before, are thereby directly connected to the woman’s genital system. Nipple stimulation increases prolactin and oxytocin (also called “the cuddle hormone”) levels, the hormones causing the smooth muscle of the uterus to contract. The contractions are usually mild at first but with more nipple fondling, sucking and stimulation, the contractions become stronger and give rise to sexual arousal and excitement! Thus, when the nipples are stimulated, many women feel their pussy become hot and excited! And, of course, breast stimulation and fondling can trigger and enhance other orgasms.

Breast sensitivity: it is not about the breast size

The sensitivity of your woman’s nipples and breasts often changes depending on the menstrual cycle. In the first two weeks and during menstruation these lovelies are less sensitive. Due to the rise in hormones, during ovulation the breasts and nipples can be very tender to the touch. What else I want you to know is that breast and nipples sensitivity is not dependent on the size of the breast! Again, this is all about the amount of hormones, nerve endings and something else what I describe below.

The longer the build-up, the better the chances!

The build-up of the breast orgasm is very slow. This truly fantastic orgasm can occur if the breast and nipple stimulation goes on for 15-20 minutes or… even longer. Yes, it takes time, lot of patience and pleasant *work* from a giver. Only a lover with a slow hand, with sexual savvy, with the knowledge (learned or intuitive) can lead a woman to the heights of breast-nipple pleasure and orgasm.

Well, dear men, how much time do YOU spend fondling a great pair of your lady’s breasts? Hanging your head in shame? ;) Okay, after reading my post, I hope you’ll take your time to really explore the erotic potential of your woman’s breasts the next time you make love. Take the time to prepare your environment, make sure it is sensual and relaxing. Lavish attention on your woman’s beautiful breasts, give her an incredible breast massage and enjoy the softness and femininity of her lovelies!

Caress, kiss, lick, nibble, moisten, fondle, massage, suck, talk, bounce, woo and compliment woman’s breasts, because it is a wonderful creation that really deserves enjoyable stimulation and maximum attention!

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