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What do you feel as you read this? Did that just turn you on a little bit? Yes? Then this article is for you! No? Then this article is for you! ;)

Aww, those dirty words… They are powerful and seductive in the bedroom and many of us use them for expression and effect. Yesterday my friend asked me if I know how to talk dirty. So today I’m going to share with you some dirty talk tips and examples that will help you figure out how to approach the naughty fun of talking in the sack and feel more comfortable about it.

As for me, talking dirty is an essential part of my sex life and one of the naughtiest things I enjoy. Dirty talk is the opportunity to really push back all the boundaries and stops. Being sweet and polite by nature, and expressing my dirty side in bed and blurting out sexy rude things is a lot of fun and gives a spice to my sex life.

Talking dirty to your sweetheart is a great form of sex play, but there are certain things you must keep in mind in order to have the best experience.

What is a Dirty Talk?

Dirty talk (sexy talk, naughty talk, etc) is a sex play involving sensual/sexual phrasing in order to drive one’s partner or oneself wild through words and imagination, and heighten sexual pleasure before and during sex. Through a dirty talk you can stimulate your partner’s major senses: sound, sight and touch. Lovers use dirty talk as a way of expressing their wants and needs in the heat of the moment.

If done right and at the right time, dirty talk is one of the hottest things you can do for your lover!

How to talk dirty?

Types of Dirty Talk: the soft-core and the hard-core.

The soft-core dirty talk may include sweet nothings, and “not so dirty” phrases and words. The soft-core version is a great way to start with dirty talk. In the beginning it is best to stick with the words you already know these work well and gradually add new naughty words and phrases here and there during sex. After all, who says a dirty talk has to be always vulgar? First of all, it has to be comfortable for both lovers and sound seductively enough to make you aroused and ready for more! We all know that sometimes the simple statements work incredibly well.

“I love the things you do with your tongue”
“Honey, you’re the sexiest thing I’ve ever seen!”
“I want you so bad”
“Your wish is my command”

The hard-core dirty talk may involve swear words and slang words. Many lovers find it extremely hot if you use them, especially if you don’t usually swear. If you prefer to use some of the most vulgar words and phrases known to man, then so be it as long you are comfortable with it and keep it within both of you. Talking dirty is like a secret with your sweetheart, a secret that only you two know and enjoy behind closed doors.

“I want to rub my pussy all over your face”
“Spray your juice all over my tits”
“Put your big fat baby maker inside my pussy and fuck my brain out. Right now!”
“This is how a real man fucks!”

Dirty talking ways

A great way to sound sexy and dirty is describing out loud what is happening during sex, how wonderful it feels in your body; talking out your dirty fantasies; telling your partner something you’re going to do and something you want your lover to do to you right now. If you can hold eye contact as you’re describing it, you get some extra pleasure, believe me. And one more thing: complimenting your lover is one more way to sound dirty in the sack. Compliment and praise your lover, give her/him an ego boost. Talk about his/her body and tell him/her about your favorite part of his/her body. Be descriptive and creative!

“You look so sexy when you do that…”
“You taste sooo good”
“Oh, that feels so good! Do that again!”
“No one has ever made me come as hard as you can”

It’s not what you say, but how you say it

Dirty talk doesn’t involve only words and phrases. You may use your voice and sounds: moans, groans, sighs; whispering and screaming. You can sound commanding and harsh, submissive and uncertain, and everywhere in between.

It should come naturally from you

Please, do not say words that make you feel uncomfortable. Try to be yourself and say the words that come out naturally. Just say what comes to mind. So, in order to sound spontaneous and really sexy, you have to wait for the right moment because if a dirty talk isn’t done right and at the right time – then prepare to deal with laughter and giggles :) After all, the point of dirty talk is to have fun, so don’t worry if it sounds funny!

Sometimes the laughter can give way to the most natural dirty talk and dirtiest phrases! So, if your sweetheart’s dirty talk makes you laugh, say something like “Shut up, sweetie, and use your mouth on me. I adore that!” or “Don’t talk dirty to me, play dirty to me!” :) Perfect: now you’re talking dirty!

Dirty talk boundaries

When the subject of dirty talk comes up, the first thing to do is communicate your dirty talk boundaries. If there are words that you don’t like, you have to tell your sweetheart. Once you have agreed on what works and what doesn’t – have fun!

Dirty talk is not disrespect, this is a sex play

Behind closed doors, almost all women enjoy being treated like a little whore every now and then. But everyone should separate a sex play from reality. So if she is a “bitch” in the sack, that doesn’t mean that she would like to be called a “bitch” outside of the bedroom.

SO WHAT TO SAY?

Okay, so you are in the mood to talk sexy/dirty/naughty to your lover and aren’t sure what to say? I hope the coming examples will come in quite handy.

Do you have your great words and phrases that you use? Then what are you waiting for? Share with me!

By the way, I hope you have all enjoyed the holiday season and that you are in good spirits on this dawn of a new year.

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Recommended links and things:
Sex-lexis.com – online dictionary of sexual terms, expressions, vulgar speech, sex slang, quotes and synonyms
Dirty Talk: Speak the Language of Lust by Lynne Stanton – a cute little book for dirty talk beginners, full of dirty talk examples and ideas! Enjoy!