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Adult Halloween 2008 is just around the corner! What are your plans for the holiday? Would you like a drop of blood? ;)

In the spirit of the Halloweeny sexy, bloody, spooky time, we’re going to talk about frightening but at the same time interesting thing: SEX AND BLOOD.

What does BLOOD have to do with SEX? Read on. Not for the faint of heart…

Playing with blood is a sexual fetish for blood, also known as vampire fetish, hematolagnia and haematophilia. Blood is loaded with symbolism and most people associate blood with bad and frightening things, however, for a small minority of people human blood and sexual pleasure go together. For blood fetishists, looking at blood, blood smelling, licking and tasting, or bloodletting (usually through biting or cutting) act as a turn-on, as an expression of intimacy, lust, emotional and spiritual connection and bonding. Impressive, right?

Blood fetishism comes in many forms. Within the BDSM lifestyle the acts of using blood for sexual arousal are known as bloodsports or bloodplay, and considered a form of “edgeplay” – sexual play involving the risk of serious harm or even death (breathplay and gunplay, for example) and increased risk of spreading HIV and other sexually transmitted diseases. Bloodsports or Bloodplay are general names for any sadomasochistic play involving blood.

Blood fetishism and bloodsports encompass many scenes such as scratching, cutting, piercing, blood letting, blood drinking, licking and tasting.

Blood fetishes are considered very dangerous, due to the high risk of diseases transmission, the possibility of serious injuries and scarring factor. Playing with blood requires a much wider array of safety precautions than typical sex. For “bloodthirsty” girls and boys, a relatively safe and easy way to satisfy the sexual curiosity for blood, is having sex during menstrual period. Some men and women are attracted to menstrual blood and desire their female partner the most when she’s menstruating. It may also be considered a form of blood fetishism and may be known as red wings or menstruation blood fetish. Personally, during my “red days” I am not in the mood for sex, and I feel that bleeding pussy and tampons is something to keep hidden from a man. However, I know women who experience an increased sex drive during their menstrual period (as a result of hormonal changes) and want to have sex. One more form of blood fetishism is “cherry popping”, or breaking the hymen in hopes for a bit of blood to flow.

Sex has always been surrounded by taboos, and I think that this is a “forbidden” factor that gave rise to unusual fetishes. The exploration of the taboo desires, if it is safe and mutual, can be fun and enjoyable; and there is nothing “wrong” about acting out a sexual fantasy that one or the other had long dreamed. But it is wrong and not so fun when the sexual curiosity and exploration comes to extremes.

People can turn anything into a fetish. But is blood a thing to play with? I don’t think so. But it’s my humble opinion. For me, blood doesn’t carry the meaning of sexual object or attraction, it carries the meaning of the essence of life.

Halloween approaches! Beware, as darkness falls on Halloween night, some bad guys are out for blood … ;)

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Fetish – informative book packed with 144 pages of information on all things fetishized: the history of fetishism, fetish gear, fetish art, etc.
Fetish Sex: An Erotic Guide for Couples – well written academic book on fetishism from Violet Blue. Inside you’ll find interesting information on defining the concept of “fetish”, working fetishes into partner play, fetish play rules and more.

Explore, be informed, be sexy, and enjoy!


Nowadays pubic hair primping becomes part of our personality and one more way for expressing yourself sexually! A higher percentage of modern people say “no” to “hairy chaos” and “yes” to hair care down there. More and more ladies want to add an artistic flavor and little spice to their most provocative area. Moreover, I often hear that many women like cleanly shaved penis, so it’s not a wonder that men trim pubic hair and shave their pubes into a design.

Women

Of course, with or without hair, our pussy is something very erotic and enticing. However, although the genital image is mostly an issue of personal choice and lifestyle, a woman who is into intimate grooming is usually seen as more feminine and sexy. I think, the state of pubic hair says something about you, your sensuality, sexual style and attitude to sex.

There are at least three reasons for primping your pubic hair or keeping the area hairless: hygiene (it is easier to keep your love zone clean when there is less hair); aesthetic beauty (the visual effect); and… the feel (tactile sensation and oral sex).

If your pussy is baby smooth – it looks and *feels*, well, beyond description. It reveals the beauty of the clit and soft skin of the labia, and gives you and your lover the super sensitive experiences and oral pleasures with no hair in the mouth. If there is a little gardening on your upper part of the vulva – it is also very sexy. Especially if your pubes are designed nicely.

Men

As to the male hair down there. I have talked to a large number of my male friends lately. Well, guys fall into two camps. The first camp includes the guys who say “real men don’t shave down there”, and consider that the pubic hair maintenance is gay. The other camp includes the guys who really don’t mind having some fun with their pubes, and consider that the cleanly shaved penis and scrotum look significantly larger and more attractive.

Must say, how popular pubic grooming is among men is debatable. Personally, I tend to think that men should take care of their nether regions, but to a “healthy” extent. If a man likes trimming his pubes, it doesn’t mean he is less manly. Manliness is not something that you should judge by the way a man treats his hair under belt. Actually, as a woman, I can tell you that a smooth manhood begs to be touched and this creates a miraculous visual effect of your erection. And on the other side, many macho hairy men are sexy too. Tastes differ. So just do whatever feels good for you and your woman.

Below I describe pubic hair styles used by both men and women today. The list includes very easy and popular pubic hair designs and some others that take a little artistic talent. And remember, girls and boys: whatever pubic hair design you choose, whether you decide to go nearly natural or totally bare or anything in between – make sure it’s comfortable for you, as well as pleasing to your partner. Oh, do you know one more reason for pubic hair styling? There’s a lot of fun in styling pubic hair! Including your partner in the designing and shaving of your pubic area can lead to a very sensual experience! On that note…

Pubic Hair Styles and Designs:

Au naturel. Natural = as Mother Nature had styled you. Enjoy your flowing locks and let them run free. No trimming, no modification and maintenance. But this is one style where the decoration is possible. For special occasions, you can style your curly pubic hair with bows, for example. Some lovers find it so funnily cute and sexy!

Landing strip style. This pubic hair design is a classic. It is very popular, easy-to-achieve and attractive. You take everything off but a thin strip of hair that goes from the pubic bone to the top of the pussy. The width and the length of the strip and hair are, of course, up to you. Variation: Hitler moustache style – a shorter version of the landing strip. This pubic hair style consists on shaving the groin completely, except for a small square portion right above the genitals. This pubic hair design looks like the mustache Adolf Hitler used to wear.

Triangle. Another popular design, also known as the Dorito, due to its triangular form resembling the famous snack. It looks like a triangle with the tip pointing downwards. Variations: downward triangle and upward triangle.

The Brazilian Style/ The Smoothie/Hollywood. Completely hairless, it means the clean shaven look. Pubic hair completely removed!

Dyed style. Introduce the color! Colouring pubic hair to match hair on the head, or to give it a special look. For example: red color for the heart-shaped design; black color for a sexy Halloween night!

More styles and variations of the popular pubic hair designs: V-shaped. X-shaped. Heart-shaped (especially popular around Valentine’s Day). Initials. Butterfly. Diamond. Star. The Crescent Moon. Tear Drop or The Gas Flame. Exclamation Point. Happy Face. Large Arrow (pointing down, of course ;)

There are a few pubic hair designs that only men can do.

The big nose. You simply trim the pubic hair into the shape of two big eyes above the penis.

The Cockhawk. This is one more popular pubic hair style for men. It somehow resembles the female landing strip. You leave a strip of pubic hair unshaved, but in this case is a little bit wider than the female landing strip. Its name comes from the fact that it resembles the Mohawk hairstyle.

For men, if you’d like trying shaving your pubes, I’d recommend to check out this blog about shaving and this page, and choose the style for your private parts. You can also choose from the pubic hair styles mentioned above.

Now, a question for you ladies and gents: what hairstyle do you recommend for women/men and what do you think of male pubic hair trimming and shaving?

Let’s all just take a deep breath and have fun! Take a look at the pictures that I’ve found on the web (just some examples of what you can do), and be sure to email me your photos, haha ;P

I bet you anything you guys forgot about my question to you, didn’t you? ;) Ok, then the question was: what hairstyle do you recommend for women/men and what do you think of male pubic hair trimming and shaving?

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The links to “pubic things”:

“Pubic reads”:
Talks about shaving is an interesting blog telling us about shaving tips, shaving techniques and styles, offering advices for male and female pubic hair shaving
My Pubic Hair is an informative and easy to read blog on “pubic relations”, pubic hair styles and designs, pubic hair pictures for men and women

Great products for male and female pubic hair shaving! Read the valuable reviews from real customers who have used the products!
Coochy shave crème – the shave creme designed for all skin types, including sensitive skin; it provides a smooth moisturizing shave to any part of your body!
Coochy shave crème collection review – handy travel bag contains Coochy rash free shave creme in four travel sized bottles: Original, Pear Berry, Green Tea and Fragrance free. The Coochy Collection was a miracle for the reviewer, and it might be useful for you too.
Inttimo shave kreme review – the product is great on intimate areas and on legs, formulated to help you avoid razor burn

Recommended video on erotic shaving:
Dare to Bare: Erotic Shaving and Sexual Pleasures – watch the real couples showing you how the art of sensual shaving can lead to a wonderful lovemaking…

Men’s Sexual Nature and Erogenous Zones by Sun Sign

Posted by Nellioness on Oct-17-2008

Hello my sexy Ladies and Gentlemen. Hope you’re doing well and living a full, complete and sexually happy life! Meantime, let’s make your sex life even more satisfying and happier. As a follow-up to my previous post on women’s erogenous zones by sun sign, today we are going to talk about a similar subject for the boys. Okay, boys and girls (girls, particularly), get your favorite beverage, make yourself comfortable and have fun!

Sex and men born under the fire signs – Aries, Leo and Sagittarius

In bed with an Aries man
Did you get a guy Aries in your bed? Be ready – he is a fire nature and kind of “you never know what’s going to happen” dude. He needs a highly active and regular sex life. He is an explorer who’s full of passion and sexual power. A typical guy Aries may be rough and tender, impulsive and spontaneous, and not naturally romantic. So don’t expect him to remember your b-day or write you love poems. But still you’re lucky since you’ve got a macho man in your bed! To drive a typical Aries man wild, play with his hair and give him scalp massage. And remember, dear ladies, this is one lover who goes crazy about women dressed up in provocative and sexy lingerie.

In bed with a Leo man
As a fire sign and Sun sign, this boy is charismatic, exceedingly passionate and good lover, because he doesn’t like to fail at anything. Leo men are leaders, not followers. The constant demand to be the center of attention make Leo men sexually demanding, bossy and a little lazy in the bedroom. But when things get hot – it’s a show and he’s a king who needs constant praise for his outstanding performance! Since a typical Leo guy is all about getting serviced – give him a good blowjob. He expects you to spend a considerable time on him. Also, he likes women in the submissive position. But you can make him submissive too. Compliment your Lion to make him purr. Then ask your sweetheart to roll onto his tummy and give him a back scratch mixed with sensual touches of your hair. Now, *you* have the power in your hands, and you* are the leader, he’s the follower.

In bed with a Sagittarius man
Ever-impetuous, spontaneous, experimental, a typical Mr Sagittarius is known for being a romantic idealist and has incredible luck with the ladies. In sexual matters, he is energizing and a sucker for the new and exotic. One of his difficulties in love is that he always wants more and thinks there could be something more exciting around the corner. How to make him focus only on you? Be intriguing and open to sexual experiments. As to his erogenous zones, hips and thighs are extremely sensual for a Saittarius. Erotic massage and touching of the area that is close to his manhood can guarantee to get him going! By the way, one more thing for your to know is that there is a rumor that bi-sexuality is a common trait amongst Sagittarius men.

Sex and men born under the earth signs – Taurus, Virgo and Capricorn

In bed with a Taurus man
Good news, ladies: a typical Taurus man is often a sensitive, tactile, caring and understanding lover. Also, an earthy sexuality makes him a stable, possesive and straight-forward partner. Under the sheets, he is almost an ideal lover who prefers it slow and easy! This is the guy who won’t guide you to “where no woman has gone before”, but what he does, he does carefully and beautifully. Erotic touch and erotic massage – that’s a big turn on for him. As to his body, Taurus rules the throat and neck, so many Tauruses (both genders) are well known for their very sexy voice. Neck and shoulder massage, mental and sensual foreplay, flirt and body odors get this hot boy in the mood. You can also surprise him if you *incidentally* touch/kiss his neck while adjusting his tie.

In bed with a Virgo man
A typical Virgo man is modest, patient, reliable, long-term partner. And he rarely pretends to be anything other than himself. Share your bed with a male Virgo? Hoorah to you since he’s a hard worker in the sack. Don’t know if this is a positive quality or negative, but Virgo guys are known for being very planning in sexual encounters and foreplay-oriented. Because of their perfectionism and attention to detail, a Virgo male can be quite conservative at times because he has his views on how a woman should be. So if you are in love with a Virgo guy – be perfect from head to toe! ;) Although, typically, they cannot tolerate crudeness and vulgarity in women. Lower chest to pubic line is his typical erogenous zone. If you wanna make him putty in your hands, touch his tummy with your tongue and hair. By the way, there is something very sexy about eating and sex. Got what I’m leading to? Yeah, edible goodies for sex. Put something very tasty on his belly and eat it off.

In bed with a Capricorn man
Typically, the Capricorn man is more of a traditionalist by nature who’s attracted to traditional, lady-wife women and thinks that men rule the world. To seduce a Capricorn man’s heart, respect his need for taking charge in any situation and his ambition. In return, you will have his unquestionable fidelity and most intense sexual experience. As a lover, this man is long-term and careful. He is a sex planner and schemer. Born under this sign men tend have the stamina and the ability to go all night if they want to! Men Capricorns as well as Sagittariuses do love massage, but they prefer massage that is performed with breasts and nipples, rather than with hands. Get naked and stroke his chest and back with your breasts. Touch his face and mouth with nipples – this will turn him any man into a sex volcano! Massaging his calves and the areas close to his knees is a feel-good thing for them also, because this is Capricorn’s typical erogenous zone.



Sex and men born under the air si
gns: Gemini, Libra and Aquarius

In bed with a Gemini man
Gemini is a highly-intelligent sign, so what you need to do is to keep your Gemini guy excited and mentally engaged in you. Since Gemini rules Hermes, the messenger of the Gods, your Gemini man is full of wit and charm, he’s a good communicator who can talk you into everything he wants. In lovemaking, he tends to be highly sexed, adventurous and variety-oriented. Be warned – he may not be satisfied with just one partner. Most even probably like porn and different sex games. For example, try reading passages from a sexy novel with him, try leaving love notes in his suit pocket, etc. Since Gemini rules the arms, shoulders, hands and nervous system, typical Gemini males get totally turned on when you direct his beautifully shaped hands on your body. You can also use your hands all over his body and treat your Gemini guy to a massage with a warming massage oil to reduce his nervous tension.

In bed with a Libra man
Libra is a sign much given to sentiment and romanticism, and the natural sign of partnership. A typical Libra man prefers togetherness over flying solo. If you want to make love with a Libra boy, wear your most elegant body jewelry, sexy lingerie and sensual perfume, because naturally this is one man who has an impeccable taste and the sense of aesthetic beauty. Sexually, he is very giving and adventurous. Libra men love to explore the pleasures of love. He’d be very keen to try out any sex fantasy you have, and do it in a kinky way or places, for example. Libra’s erogenous zone is their lower back and the buttocks. In the most intimate moment squeeze and gently pat on his sexy butt. Give him some gentle pinches. Run your fingers up and down between his buttocks and massage the inner side of each buttock with your fingers. Snuggle your belly and breasts to his bottoms. Any man would be delighted to receive an *unexpected kiss* on his butt from your nipples. Don’t hesitate to offer him and even more dominant play with some flogging and spanking. Who knows, after you spank him, he might spank you right back! ;)

In bed with an Aquarius man
If your partner was born under the sign of Aquarius, be ready for everything. The typical Antiquarian men are known as very entertaining, intellectual and extremely imaginative lovers. So if you’re looking for fun and kinkiness, the Aquarius guy is the one you need. Take notes, girls: this man is up for oral sex (both giving and receiving it!), mutual masturbation, role play, S&M, threesomes, going to nude beaches, and trying the incredible poses from the Kama Sutra book and porn vids. He has an amazing staying power in bed, and he will always see you through to orgasm. Typically, the sensitive areas of Aquariuses are legs, calves and ankles. Men of this sign enjoy the standing up sexual position when a woman wraps her legs around him and touches his calves. By the way, this is the best sex position for a couple where both partners are Aquariuses. The sign mostly likely to be an exhibitionist is Aquarius. Every Aquarian has a bit of the exhibitionist in him!


Sex and men born under the water signs – Cancer, Scorpio and Pisces

In bed with a Cancer man
Typically, the Cancer man is a one-woman man. He is attentive and will probably be very generous with gifts, flowers, and things sexual and sensual. He is highly protective of both himself and his woman. In lovemaking, most partners find that men of this sign are romantic and receptive lovers; needy and comfort-loving. If you’re interested in a Cancer man, want to seduce him and keep him, get to know his erogenous zones. Slowly unbutton his shirt and rub his chest, since the chest is his typical erogenous zone. Massage and flip your hair onto his chest. Internally, the Cancer sign governs the stomach. Ladies, sexualize the process of cooking and be ready to be taken right there in the kitchen! By the way, sex in the kitchen is one of the most popular sexual fantasies in men of all signs. Girls, what you’re waiting for? Go to the kitchen. *wink*

In bed with a Scorpio man
Lucky enough to be with a Scorpio male? Wow. Ruled by Mars, the God of action, and Pluto, the Lord of the Underworld, this lover is enthusiastic, deeply passionate, intensely sexy, lustful and very possessive. Watch your step and be ready to play by his rules or leave. To the typical Scorpio man sex is very important. Usually a master of sex, this macho loves “bad girls” and enjoys being in control. He always expands his sexual repertoire. Lots of sex toys, anal sex, domination play, over-his-knee spanking, dirty talk – almost everything “smells good” to this horny boy! And nothing can turn him on more than oral sex, because Scorpio sign rules the sex organs. Any oral stimulation is accepted. The dirtier, the better. Don’t waste time playing with his nipples or kissing his neck, for example, and move to touching him between the legs directly. Make love to this amazing organ of pleasure. And enjoy! But please don’t think this man is a cock-driven brute. His world is full of emotional undercurrents and what he really wants is a true soulmate in his bed.

In bed with a Pisces man
Pisces male is the ideal man for the woman who complains that men are not romantic and sensitive enough, because this man is. If you have one in your life, you are lucky. The typical Pisces man carries an ocean of feelings and does have a back bone. As a lover, this guy has much to offer a woman. He is deeply intuitive, spiritual, very oral and his mind is full of delicious sex fantasies. This is a sexual adventurer who reads body language better than any other sign and can go the extra mile to discover his woman’s erogenous zones. As to his “moan zones”, Pisces rules the feet. Why not surprise your Pisces guy with a sensual foot massage or a footjob? Many Pisces enjoy toe sucking and masturbating lover with feet. Ladies, rub your beautiful and sexy feet all over his hard cock, and let him come on your feet. All his romantic fantasies and emotions are culminated when this man ma
kes love.


Well, congratulations on taking one more step to understanding your partner’s sexuality and sexual preferences. I’d love to know your opinions: what sounds accurate and what sounds like not you and your partner.

Wishing you good times between the sheets, always! ! !