Woman About Sex

“Did you ever?” “Yep, I once was tired, got some whisky that night. You were so hot, but I couldn’t cum, so for you not to take it personally, I faked. Big deal” That’s what I was answered. Did I take it personally? Yes, but ssshhh. I took it personally for a moment, and then a wise thought soon “sobered me up” as a cold shower.

For fair, men are not “energizers”. They can’t be always “ready” and that could make them fake orgasm. Actually, for the same reasons as we women fake orgasm. It could be due to different physical and emotional factors as, say, stress, tiredness, distraction, influence of alcoholic drinks, simple “not today” reason. Of course, if things like “she’s not desirable for me anymore” are not involved.

Moreover, we women used to think that men should always have orgasms as a result of sex – this wrong believe is the second thing that leads some men fake orgasm in order to save their reputation and, perhaps, our feelings, too.

Thirdly, we think (at least, I thought) that ejaculation and orgasm are one and the same thing for men. Surprising as it may sound to many dick-owners themselves, but male orgasm and ejaculation are two separate processes, although more often they happen together. Thus, a man can ejaculate without having the sensations of orgasm, and get real orgasm without having ejaculation!

In other words, male real orgasm is the rhythmic contraction at the peak of sexual arousal that usually occurs around the time of ejaculation. But it can also happen before or after. Ejaculation is the lower spinal reflex that often follows real orgasm and results in the expulsion of many girls favorite “cream”.

Some men can have multiple orgasms without losing their erection and ejaculation. This “trick” can be developed by training of interrupting sexual intercourse before that “Oh my god, I cum” feeling. And, by the way, they don’t experience “blue balls” if they orgasm like that. But in case they don’t orgasm and don’t ejaculate – this bad thing really promising “blue balls”.

Did you know that?

You probably could have lived all your life without knowing this facts, but knowing could shed some light on things and resolve problems, probably.

Summing up, my idea is that men’s orgasms are different as well as ours. As I said in my previous post about women this goes for men too: even when a man is truly enjoying the intimacy with you – it doesn’t necessarily mean he will ejaculate. Occasional lack of ejaculation is nothing to worry about if there are no hidden problems between partners, like, I repeat, feeling distant and no longer wanting and loving her. This is not a reason to blame him and lead him fake it next time. I guess this is all about feeling aroused but not enough to cum. We women often experience the same.

But honestly, although I know that men are less likely to admit a sexual problem or “I’m not in the mood” thing, I want them not keeping us in the dark and just say it. I know it’s somewhat wrong, but I still want to end sex BOTH getting explosive real orgasms.

Why we think it’s our duty to get the guy to cum, indeed? But ssshhh…. This very point makes men fake orgasms.

Is that so, hah?