Woman About Sex

~In northern Europe, one out of two women uses a mechanical sex toy and ‘Tupper-dildo’ parties are increasingly popular.

~‘Can the use of sex toys desensitise women to real penises?’ This metaphysical question was posted on the website of American magazine Esquire by a worried male reader and is worth asking – especially since we know that European women are becoming more and more fond of erotic gadgets.

~According to a recent survey, more than half of Irish, Swedish and British women own an electronic boyfriend; the south remains more prudish and pleases itself with sombre rosary beads. But the barbaric invasion of the Dildo knight and his squires is well underway.

~The shady sex shops of Pigalle in Paris are finished. For example, aficionados can purchase their beloved vibrator or dildo at Ann Summers at London Luton airport, before taking off for real.

~Another little revolution is the increasing success of ‘Tupper-dildo’ parties, based on the model of innocent get-togethers for 1950s housewives, where a resourceful hostess would show the other guests the latest household commodities (and let them try them out); a sociable concept, and a rather profitable one for the organisers.

Well, yes, today we pay proper attention to our sex lives, because we are well-informed of sex importance, curious about sexuality issues and open-minded about novelties that definitely spice up things. It’s true that sex toys are becoming more popular and for me personally it’s also true that if used without perversion and addiction, they don’t lead to desensitization to real penises and pussies.

My attitude to adult toys is absolutely positive. For me, a sex toy is not a replacement for the real penis. Not for the world! It’s an ADDITION to my sex life. And this addition is not a bad one, because if a woman isn’t obsessed with sex toy use, she can get a lot of benefits for her health and sexual experiences.

The same is true for men who aren’t frightened by sex toys and, otherwise, add them from time to time to their solo and partner plays. I don’t mind when my man uses nice cock rings, for instance, because these adult toys please both my spots and his shaft. If he is getting his pleasures alone – surely, I’m ready to shower him with a lot of masturbation sex toys and artificial pussies, if only he doesn’t enjoy somebody’s real pussy. Ok, of course, if a man wants to cheat on his woman – he’ll do it. But, nevertheless, a masturbation sex toy put with care on his favorite pillow will reduce the chances.

Another point stressed in the article is ‘Tupper-dildo’ parties. Hah, well, I personally find sex toy parties and ‘Tupper-dildo’s good and informative for many people whether they are married or single, adventurous or cautious, fans or haters. Parties like these present samples of the most popular products, provide some educational information, and just let you gather with your friends for fun, jokes and drinks.

As to purchasing of sex toys beyond the specialized shops, it’s quite another matter. And I’m against.

Finally, the thing that have always interested me as a woman. For example, imagine the situation when the merciless circumstances (business, trip, health problems) force you be away from your partner. What would you choose: to bring your sweetheart a vibrating “rescuer” or let him/her decide on his own? I guess the factor of desensitization won’t be an issue.

Therefore, in my opinion, getting sex toy joys without boys (girls) isn’t always a wrong way of sexual satisfaction.

Do you agree with me?

Beautiful pics huh? :)

It all started with: “Nell, a suggestion for a future post: How many people prefer no lube vs. lube when cranking their meat? That goes for the ladies too… Does the beaver enjoy being stroked on land or in the water?”

Three thoughts crossed my mind:
*Ah, again a “no one will let you know his truth” kind of topic
*Do I like it called the beaver?
*Mmmm… Mmmasturbation…

Of course, masturbation is a part of my sex life. I consider it one of the keys to the doors of sexual health and success in a relationship. If you are not addicted and obsessed about self-satisfying your flesh, there is nothing bad in it. The real downside is that many don’t feel comfortable discussing, watching, not to mention indulging in this nasty dirty act. Although I personally don’t share the bad attitude, it’s probably justified…

I was shocked to find out the following facts on masturbation. During the 1820s some adult parents were so against masturbation that they made their sons wear metal chastity belts, or pierced the foreskin with a wire and put the ends together that made it painful to have an erection; while young women were forced to wear steel gloves at night! People thought masturbation can lead to madness and illness.

Thanks God we are living in a sexually-liberated time. Now everyone has the choice and knowledge, and I believe few are able to say they haven’t done it at least once, cause sometimes it’s so cool to get mad…

Actually, there are many interesting definitions of masturbation: self-manipulation, self-stimulation, manual excitation, hand job, auto eroticism, self-abuse… Oh my, for me this is simply “massage”! And, of course, what’s the massage without proper lubricating the skin right?

Have you ever noticed that wetness always goes together with the feeling of pleasure? We get a turn-on and our panties get wet. We kiss and our kisses are tastefully wet. We f*ck and we sweat. All in all, we cum wet! Wet sex is good sex. I was once told “More saliva, more pleasure”, so, in my opinion, the best lubricants ever are saliva and our own juice. When I’m aroused I get wet in a moment, so I rarely need some specifically-designed lubrication. If the merciless lust bumps me outdoor – my own creams come to the rescue to wet the clit and all my hot surroundings. Another piece of cake when additional lubricants are not involved is, as I call it, the “precum exchange” when you are masturbating in front of your lover, so you can easily use his/her precum for your own “in front of” masturbation! Just take some amount and lubricate yourself…

However, when my mustrurbation turns into a long-lasting show, I like to slowly lead myself into the world of the pleasant painful pulsation with some preferable lubes which add extra sensations and definitely make my skin better.

Of course, a wide range of lubricants is available today and as you are your own best friend, you can choose the best for you from warming lubricants (Pure Passion gel), edible lubricants, prolonging lubes, jack off lubes (Instant hand job lubricant by California Exotic) for men.

My unchangeable rule in choosing both male and female lubricant is: natural ingredients and water base. Water-based lubricants (O’my natural lubricant is a nice one) are all-purpose lubes; they can be used with sex toys, with a partner, with a condom, for anal joys. Oil-based lubricants are good too, they are usually made from natural vegetable or nut oils, don’t cause irritation, but are difficult to wash off, tend to stain fabrics and destroy latex. Silicone-based lubricants are waterproof and fantastic for shower plays, but I personally don’t like very slippery things and those that harm silicone sex toys.

Thus, I don’t know about the beavers, but my kitty purrs when I give it some water. Purrrr ;)

Well, if you are not morally opposed to this nasty dirty act of masturbation and have some masturbation secrets, preferences, attitudes, impressions, and so on and so forth – please don’t keep them to yourself any longer. Masturbation is a show and “show must go on” with sharing. Sharing leads to practice, practice leads to Perfection… That’s why we are here on m
y little blog.

“I love two men. I want them both. I mean, errr… what do you think about me having two husbands?” she blurted. Seriously!

I even choked on my delicious piece of pizza and, in the twinkling of an eye, jolted out of my beer haze. She was looking at me waiting for my answer but I felt utterly at a loss.

I’m talking about one of my friends who is a wife, a mother and a mistress. We have been friends for around 6 years now and she has always been in love with two/three men at one time. Now she’s happily married. I know her pretty hubby, a good supporting guy with a sex drive some could just dream of. And I also know the hottie who makes my friend break the “moral rules” and be a totally unfaithful wife of her husband. Not bad, must say.

Since the dawn of time men were considered to be mostly polygamous, women – monogamous. Maybe that’s a trite stereotype? I personally was once in love with one man but sexually attracted to him and his friend. And, yes, I fantasized of having them both in my bed making me break all rules and “kissing me all over the world” but I never put it seriously though. I can imagine myself having one-time sex with two men I like, nevertheless, I can’t imagine myself in a real relationship with them, because I can love the only one.

However, I once met an American guy who was serious about having two wives, i.e. two families. Others said me the only thought of having sex with more than one partner gets them excited, but just sex, for fun. But there are guys who are totally against such sexual relationships not to mention a polygamous marriage. Frankly speaking, it seems to me present-day people are mostly polygamous like it was ages and ages ago, because things and values have changed. Some keep their values and stay faithful; most often, their choice is dating/marrying one person. Some, otherwise, get involved in either sexual or serious relationships with two or more people at the same time.

A total mess is happening nowadays and I have a self-contradiction about all this. One part of me states “enjoy life”, another one cries out “what the hell is going on with this world”.

Although, perhaps, it’s nice to have two loving hearts at your home… ;))

Have you ever felt yourself older or younger than you really are? Do you often think of an age issue? For me personally AGE is mostly about a state of MIND.

I was always interested in spending time with people older than me, because I myself feel a bit older than I am. I’m pretty independent, conscious and experienced in many facets of life. Things turned out this way. Therefore, it’s not a surprise that I’m in a long-term relationship with a man older than me. How much older? I’m 24. He is 40. Yes, “Eros doesn’t look at age” and I don’t find it so bad. Well, we’re going together nearly for three years and I want him to be my life-time partner and my children’s dad. He is serious when needed, fun when it’s appropriate, always reliable, loving and damn so sexy that it makes me jealous sometimes and… proud of him though. I like when young chicks never miss a chance to show they like my man.

There are no selfish ends, lustful reasons or those familiar “who is at the top” struggles involved in our relationship, because we just treat each other with mutual respect taking into consideration that both are strong personalities. If he is most likely to know something better – I follow without “why’s”, “never’s” and “I’m always right” contradictions. We are peers of the heart still the fact he is older makes me pleasantly submissive. As to our sex life? His experiences, strong mature body and skilful ways, mixed with my insatiable passion, shameless curiosity and flexibility make up an explosive cocktail. In short, we are a happy couple and age isn’t an issue for us so far.

However…

Statistics say the perfect age gap between the two is when he is 5 years older to her, because there is not much difference in the views and attitudes. Maybe my situation is a rare case but, surprisingly, we never fail to understand each other and there are no clashes in our attitudes, goals, interests, lifestyle, sex drive. I guess the reason is that there is not much difference in maturity level, because I’m feeling a bit older, he feels himself younger and looks younger.

Thus as long as I’m happy I believe age means little. Still, yes, yes, and yes, have to admit that sometimes I think of how our relationship could work in the future, because later or sooner everything just falls into place.

So that’s the main reason for this post.

And, ok… I’m a liar.

One more reason is that we took some time-out, because I need to realize what’s going on with me and what shall I do about my relationship. I know love (passion) is not an everlasting feeling, when it ends, other things come to power. I also think it’s not quite right to limit your life and imagine what might happen in the future. Lots of doubts are torturing my mind now. Or… maybe I just have a stupid short-term depression.

What do you think? Is age difference a potential problem? What age gap you consider reasonable/huge? Should people who fell into such relationship break when things come to marriage and kids?

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