Woman About Sex

&nbsp&nbsp In the spirit of the recent events there have been lots of talks about… violence. Violence ruins everything in the world. It takes lives, breaks hearts to pieces, destroys relationships, making those who have been a loving couple for years feel distant and cold…

&nbsp&nbsp So, the violence-orientation these days put some important questions into my mind to ask you later.

&nbsp&nbsp I grew up in a peace-within-the-family home. I never witnessed my parents physically or emotionally violent toward each other. And they never let themselves to lay their hand on me… under no circumstances. So it was highly unexpected and terribly painful to me to be once… slapped by someone. By a strong man with the big palms whom I loved, by my ex. It was jealousy what forced him to hit me. Actually, it was a shock to me to find my hand returning him the hit… Well, we had a really bad fight saying each other those familiar offensive things. I left him for that but it ended with my coming back after his promises, “sorry”s, and… my own excuses for him. This archaic phrase “the calm before the storm” has always seemed to me a truthful saying. A year later, the situation repeated with words accompanying “because I love you!” Though it wasn’t so painful physically and I wasn’t bruised, it was more painful emotionally and “bruises” in my heart made me leave to never come back.

&nbsp&nbsp Love is giving pleasure not the hit and hate.
&nbsp&nbsp The first slap is never the last.

&nbsp&nbsp I know this form of violence occurs regardless of gender, age, sexuality, religions and geography (here’s what happens in America, for instance). I know there are situations when many of us whether men or women even deserve some slaps. I know that men may get angry about many things a woman does. Jealousy, cheating, lies can also drive him wild and force to clench his fists… But the same reasons may force a woman to handle a knife and say something like “I’ll cut of your dick if you ever hit me again”… huh? What would you do then?

&nbsp&nbsp So, I’m thinking where the world is heading to… Is this a healthy norm of relationships? Perhaps, a talk can be more powerful than a fist..? What are your thoughts about SEXUAL violence?

&nbsp&nbsp As for me, a long-standing question that tortured my mind since my previous relationship is: Can a person LOVE you, want you, kiss you and still be abusive toward you?

&nbsp&nbsp Everyone who took time to read all this – I’ll appreciate your honest answer…