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Think you know why your girlfriend or wife is having sex with you? Can you imagine that sometimes her reason for sex with you doesn’t even involve YOU? Sorry guys for making you confused – but that’s true, whether you believe it or not.

There are lots of reasons why women have sex – some are very misleading, some are very serious, and some can be very, very, VERY SURPRISING. The hardest fact is that women’s reason and desire for sex is not necessarily a desire to really have sex and experience a pure physical pleasure. The Texas University psychologists, Cindy Meston and David Buss, conducted a fascinating study (2006-2009) and interviewed 1,000 different women to find out why they really have sex. In their book “Why Women Have Sex” (2009), Meston and Buss identified more than 200 unexpected reasons and diverse sexual motives!

Some women have sex to keep their loved one, whereas other women have sex to trap a new partner or get rid of an unwanted one. Some ladies do not know how to say ‘‘no’’ and feel like it’s easier to ‘‘go all the way’’ than to say no. Some feel sorry for a person, others feel guilty or make a special favor to someone. Among female reasons for sex there are – revenge, boredom, profit, losing weight, boosting self-esteem, curing a headache, relieving menstrual cramps, making her partner to forget about his problems and keeping the peace at home. The list is long, and love and pleasure are not at the top of it…

Ah, ladies. Why do we always tend to be so confusing and inscrutable to men? It may be time to be more open about some things ;)

So, why women really have sex? Get ready to have your minds blown with lots of surprising, funny and crazy things. It seems like that well-known quote “women need a reason to have sex, men just need a place” sounds like a true story, right?

I was ‘‘in the heat of the moment.’’
It just happened.
I was bored.
It just seemed like ‘‘the thing to do.’’
Someone dared me.
I wanted to feel closer to God.
I wanted to make up after a fight.
I wanted to get rid of aggression.
I wanted to have something to tell my friends.
I wanted to express my love for the person.
I wanted to experience the physical pleasure.
I felt like I owed it to the person.
I was attracted to the person.
I was sexually aroused and wanted the release.
My friends were having sex and I wanted to fit in.
It feels good.
My partner kept insisting.
The person was famous and I wanted to be able to say I had sex with him/her.
I was physically forced to.
I was verbally coerced into it.
I wanted the person to love me.
I wanted to have a child.
I wanted to make someone else jealous.
I wanted to have more sex than my friends.
I was married and you’re supposed to.
I wanted to feel loved.
I was feeling lonely.
Everyone else was having sex.
It was easier to ‘‘go all the way’’ than to stop.
I wanted to ensure the relationship was “committed.”
I was competing with someone else to ‘‘get the person.’’
I wanted to ‘‘gain control’’ of the person.
I was curious about what the person was like in bed.
I was curious about sex.
I wanted to feel attractive.
I wanted to please my partner.
I wanted to display submission.
I wanted to release anxiety/stress.
I didn’t know how to say ‘‘no.’’
I felt like it was my duty.
I wanted to end the relationship.
My friends pressured me into it.
I wanted the adventure/excitement.
I wanted to get even with someone.
I wanted to act out a fantasy.
I hadn’t had sex for a while.
The person was ‘‘available.’’
I didn’t want to ‘‘lose’’ the person.
I thought it would help ‘‘trap’’ a new partner.
I felt sorry for the person.
I wanted to ‘‘possess’’ the person.
I wanted to feel good about myself.
I was slumming.
I felt rebellious.
I wanted to intensify my relationship.
It seemed like the natural next step.
I wanted to be nice.
I wanted to feel young.
I wanted to manipulate him/her into doing something for me.
I wanted him/her to stop bugging me about sex.
I didn’t want to disappoint the person.
I was trying to ‘‘get over’’ an earlier person/relationship.
I wanted to reaffirm my sexual orientation.
I wanted to try out new sexual techniques or positions.
I felt guilty.
It was the only way my partner would spend time with me.
It became a habit.
I wanted to keep my partner happy.
I wanted to communicate at a deeper level.
I was afraid my partner would have an affair if I didn’t have sex with him/her.
I wanted a ‘‘spiritual’’ experience.
It was just part of the relationship ‘‘routine’’.
I wanted to lose my inhibitions.
I got ‘‘carried away.’’
I wanted to increase the number of sex partners I had experienced.
The person was too ‘‘hot’’ (sexy) to resist.
I thought it would relax me.
I thought it would make me feel healthy.
I wanted to see what it would be like to have sex with another person.
I thought it would help me to fall asleep.
I could brag to other people about my sexual experience.
It would allow me to ‘‘get sex out of my system’’ so that I could focus on other things.
I wanted to decrease my partner’s desire to have sex with someone else.
It would damage my reputation if I said ‘‘no.’’
I wanted to celebrate something.
I was seduced.
I was mad at my “partner,” so I had sex with someone else.
I wanted to fulfill a previous promise to my partner.
It was expected of me.
I wanted to keep my partner from straying.
I wanted the pure pleasure.
I’m addicted to sex.
I wanted to be used or degraded.
Someone offered me money to do it.
I was drunk.
It seemed like good exercise.
I was pressured into doing it.
It was a romantic setting.
I felt insecure.
My regular partner is “boring,” so I had sex with someone else.
I was on the ‘‘rebound’’ from another relationship.
Because of a bet.
I wanted to get back at my partner for having cheated on me.
I wanted to break up a rival’s relationship by having sex with his/her partner.
I wanted to stop my partners’ nagging.
I wanted to achieve an orgasm.
I wanted to get a job.
I wanted to get a promotion.
I wanted to satisfy a compulsion.
I wanted to change the topic of conversation.
I wanted to get out of doing something.
I wanted to test my compatibility with a new partner.
I wanted to put the passion back into my relationship.
I wanted to prevent a breakup.
I wanted to become one with another person.
I wanted to give someone else a sexually transmitted disease
I wanted to breakup another’s relationship.
I wanted to avoid hurting someone’s feelings.
I wanted to get rid of a headache.
I was afraid to say ‘‘no’’ due to the possibility of physical harm.
I wanted to burn calories.
I wanted to even the score with a cheating partner.
I wanted to feel older.
I wanted to become more focused on work – sexual thoughts are distracting.
I wanted to say ‘‘I’ve missed you.’’
I wanted to say ‘‘I’m sorry.’’
I wanted to return a favor.
I wanted to say ‘‘Thank you.’’
I wanted to say ‘‘goodbye.’’
I wanted to relieve menstrual cramps.
I wanted to get the most out of life.
I wanted to see what all the fuss is about.
The person was a good dancer.
Someone had told me that this person was good in bed.
The person had beautiful eyes.
The person made me feel sexy.
An erotic movie had turned me on.
The person had taken me out for an expensive dinner.
The person was a good kisser.
The person had bought me jewelry.
The person had a great sense of humor.
The person really desired me.
The person was really desired by others.
I wanted to gain access to that person’s friend.
I wanted to see if I could get the other person into bed.
The person smelled nice.
The person had an attractive face.
I saw the person naked and could not resist.
I was turned on by the sexual conversation.
The person was intelligent.
The person caressed me.
The person wore revealing clothes.
The person had too much to drink and I was able to take advantage of them.
The person was mysterious.
I realized I was in love.
I wanted to forget about my problems.
I wanted my partner to notice me.
I wanted to help my partner forget about their problems.
I wanted to lift my partner’s spirits.
I wanted to make my partner feel powerful.

Whatever your reason for having sex – do not forget about YOUR OWN PLEASURE. I hope it is always the first on your “sex reasons” list. Let the world wait and enjoy!

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Sometimes she moans. Sometimes she is too silent. Sometimes she meets your thrusts. Sometimes she pushes you away. And you know what? Sometimes she herself doesn’t understand her own body signals and the “mechanism” of her sexual arousal. Therefore, it comes as no surprise that it can be quite hard for a man to read a woman’s sexual body language and understand if he is pleasing her in the right way.

So, how to tell what’s going on with your lady when you make love? You are about to find out some nonverbal signs of female sexual pleasure and excitement. Sure, these body language signs aren’t 100% definite and accurate for each woman. But, my guess is that these signals of female arousal will help you interpret the hints of what your woman is feeling during lovemaking. Learn to read a woman’s body language and pay careful attention to your woman’s body response when you keep on kissing and caressing her.

She is moaning, groaning and screaming

Being vocal and noisy in the heat of passion is one of the most visible and evident signs of her sexual arousal. But, you have to tell if your woman is moaning and screaming in pleasure, not in pain. Her moans usually mean she feels relaxed and comfortable with you. Her screaming during sex is often an indication of approaching (or experiencing) the peak of sexual pleasure.

She is breathing fast and deep

Don’t panic when she starts breathing heavily. When she gets turned on, it takes her breath away and may look like she is panting. So, if you can hear her holding her breath, it probably means you are doing it right and great.

She is moving her hips to meet your hips

If your lady rhythmically moves her hips to meet your thrusts, then she is enjoying what you’re doing right now.

She grasps you tightly and her muscles become tense

When her pleasure is rising, her body becomes tense. She is grasping you everywhere and pushing against you. At the peak of orgasm, her entire body may become beautifully strong.

She gets all wet and you can feel her pussy juices

Increased sweating, sensitive clitoris and intense vaginal lubrication are definite signs of her sexual pleasure and excitement. Due to increased blood flow to the skin, she can have a sex flush and a reddening of the body skin. Her clitoris retracts under the clitoral hood, and her pussy lips become darker (due to blood swell). Pay attention to what is going on inside of your lady’s love hole. Enter her, and you will feel multiple and rhythmic contractions in her pussy.

She touches herself and tends to embrace you tightly

She tends to embrace you tightly and touch you everywhere. She can also touch herself to help you to arouse her body. But if she’s covering herself, getting shy of her body and holding her hands close to her – it means she is not relaxed and enjoying. Therefore, pay attention to what she is doing with her hands during lovemaking.

She is experiencing strong muscle contractions

As her pleasure increases and orgasm becomes imminent, she is experiencing powerful muscle contractions. This is one more evident and definite body sign of her sexual pleasure. Those muscle spasms may look like she is, well, in pain. But, be sure, those muscle contractions prove that she is feeling great and at the edge of an amazing orgasm.

She sheds a tear after an intense orgasm

At first, it seems that tears have nothing to do with female sexual pleasure. But, believe it or not, tears are sometimes a body sign of great emotional and physical satisfaction. If you are having an emotionally deep sex, it can trigger some tears of pleasure (in a sensitive and emotional woman). The thing is that her sexual ecstasy can be intense and powerful enough to make her have occasional tears near orgasm or immediately after it. Orgasms release hormones (endorphins) that cause energy boost and emotional highs, leading to tears. Tears are her body response to the pleasant stress. So, if you notice her shed a tear, you won’t go wrong if you talk to your lady to figure out the reason of her tears.

Reading your woman’s sexual body language is a huge step to increased pleasure for both of you. The responses a woman’s body reveals at the peak of pleasure are different and often misleading. The thing is that the female excitement takes a long time to build up. The more slowly you allow her arousal to build up, the stronger her pleasure will be.

Only a lover with a slow hand and careful attention can lead a woman to sexual pleasure. Learning how, when and where to touch a woman takes time and patience. Remember that female orgasm is not a push-button response. Many women have difficulty achieving orgasm. As every man, each woman is unique and what works for one girl, it won’t necessarily work for another. Explore her body’s sensual alternatives. Kiss, lick, suck, nibble, massage, compliment her and finger your woman to discover her body’s most sensual places. Try to build a strong emotional connection with your woman, and keep in mind: the way to a woman’s body lies through her heart and soul.

Lessons for men to learn for the rest of their sex life:

Read her sexual body language to achieve maximum pleasure for both of you
Pay attention to your woman’s sexual feedback to the different touches
The longer you sexually please her, the stronger her pleasure will be
What works for one woman, won’t necessarily work for another
Build with her an emotional connection first, physical second
Emotionally deep sex can trigger woman’s tears of pleasure
Female orgasm and arousal is not a push-button response
The path to a woman’s bed lies through her head
The way to a woman’s body is through her soul

Dear women reading this, help your men to satisfy you. Don’t simply lie there and wait for him to do wonders with your body. Show him how to read your sexual body language, and then you’ll enjoy the orgasmic fruits of your… errm… *his* labor ;)

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New Year 2011 is knocking at the door. And it’s a perfect time to glance through my articles and pick up most popular posts I’ve published on WomanAboutSex.Com in 2010. I am happy to announce that it’s been more than four years now since I started my blog in 2006. Thank you so much for being with me all year long. Thank you for your kind words, wishes and e-mails! I hope to see you soon in 2011, and I wish you all a very, very, very Happy New Year and all the best in your sex life!

I haven’t blogged that much this year, anyways there are articles which got your feedback, comments and page views. If you have your favorite posts on my blog – please let me know by placing a link or mentioning the post title in the comments section. And, take a minute to tell me what you would like to learn about in 2011!

Female Body Shapes and Types – Fruit Classification!

“Women, as fruits, come in all shapes, types and sizes. Each one is unique, appealing and delicious. Each one has her best body parts that men love most.”

No doubt, every woman is unique, so is every woman’s body. In this article, I take a look at the similarity between women’s figures and fruit shapes! I also suggest some sexual positions that may help to improve each body type. So, what fruit shape most closely resembles your body?

Woman’s Figure and Body Shape: The Hourglass Figure – Sexy Or Not?

“Whatever your figure and assets – do believe that you are the most beautiful and sexiest woman alive. Self-confidence, “feminine” behavior and a well-timed smile give you true beauty.”

This post was inspired by reader question. A man reader asked my opinion on complimenting a woman’s figure and body image. The thing is that he met a beautiful lady who was blessed with an hourglass body shape. He complimented on her body and… got slapped in the face. So, this article is dedicated to women with hourglass figure!

12 Famous Women With Houglass Figure!

“An hourglass figure is mostly about the body shape and contours, not the weight. A woman can be big and hourglass-shaped, and she can be small and thin and hourglass-shaped.”

This is one of the sexiest posts I have published in 2010. In this post you will take a look at figure-related quotes and 12 gorgeous celebrity women with appetite forms and perfect hourglass figure: Gina Lollobrigida, Sofia Loren, Marilyn Monro, Diana Dors, Jane Mansfield, Raquel Welch, Kelly Brook, Dita Von Teese, Beyonce Knowles, Jennifer Lopez, Kim Kardashian, and curvaceous model/singer Mayra Veronica. Enjoy!

Ben Wa Balls Types And Tips

“Although the pleasure-inducing properties of Ben Wa Balls are very disputable, one thing is for sure: Ben Wa Balls are great for exercising PC muscles and exploring a woman’s sensual side.”

The title says it all. I describe some popular types of Ben Wa Balls and point out tips, ideas and safety instructions! Strengthening pelvic floor muscles is very beneficial for women in many aspects. Stronger, tighter and sensitive vagina leads to more intense orgasms and better sex life overall. Take care of your sexual health and have fun!

Ben Wa Balls – What They Are And How They Work

“The larger the balls – the larger and more pronounced the whole sensation, stimulation and effect. It is kind of naive to think that Ben Wa Balls can provide an immediate orgasm.”

Ben Wa balls – also known as Pleasure Balls, Orgasm Balls, Love Balls, Duotone Balls, Kegel Balls and Smart Balls – are surrounded by hype and myths. This article tells about my experience and gives tips on how to use Ben Wa Balls.

Kegel Exercises For Men And Women – Helpful Tips & Simple Techniques

“Anyone can learn how to do Kegel exercises. The most fantastic thing about Kegels is that they are very easy to do.”

Almost every adult, whether a man or a woman, has heard of Kegel exercises. However, not everyone knows what Kegel exercises really are. In this post I discuss the benefits of Kegel exercises for male and female health. You will understand the importance of Kegel Exercise for PC muscle. Learn to do Kegels! Try out Kegel Exercise Techniques! And much more!

High Heels & Sexuality – Any Connection?

“Why do so many men love high heels on women? Just one big reason is that high heels add to female attractiveness and sexiness. When a woman is in heels, she’s more vulnerable and she can’t run away from a man.”

Most of women love wearing high heels and most men love high heels on women. High heels are an amazing “weapon” in the female’s arsenal. Therefore, I’ve decided to find out more about the connection between wearing high heels and sexuality. Why women love wearing high heels? Why do so many men love high heels on women? Is there anything good about wearing high heels? Find out top reasons and benefits!

Anal Lovemaking: Top 5 Anal Sex Toys!

“Although anal sex is still making some people blush, millions of men and women engage in anal lovemaking and play with anal sex toys.”

I describe top 5 anal sex toys designed to enhance anal pleasure. This post is for those ladies and gentlemen who just start (or, are ready to start) their journey into the naughty and “forbidden” world of anal sex.

Vaginal and Anal Bleaching – Safe Or Not?

“When it comes to making your privates prettier by using bleaching creams, there are risks that may outweigh the benefits. Just look in the mirror, and you may discover how beautiful and naturally sexy your sexual parts are.”

Everyone wants to look their best when it comes to things sexual and erotic. That is why anal and vaginal bleaching is becoming so popular nowadays. But, how safe is bleaching? How do bleaching creams work and what are the active ingredients? Here is some info to think about before bleaching your lovely things between the legs.

Hello there each and every one on WomanAboutSex.Com! Very soon we’ll be celebrating the most enigmatic holiday of the year. The ferocious year of the Metal Tiger is almost over, while the long-awaited year 2011 is just around the corner. According to the Chinese Zodiac – 2011 is the year of the Rabbit! And, I just want you to pamper yourself with Rabbit Vibrators and Rabbit Sex Toys!

I’ve manually selected an exciting range of legendary rabbit vibrators that are ready to please you 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, 365 days a year! The choice is based on my personal experience and my friends’ experience. Each sex toy is a true work of art, a real feast for the eyes and a pure pleasure for female most sensitive places. Here you have them – sex toys for the year 2011!

Waterproof Jack Rabbit Vibrator

Rotating shaft with rotating metal beads inside
Gives “full” feeling with 5″ insertable and 1.5″ diameter
Rabbit shaped clit stimulator with 3 contact points
3 speeds of vibration, 3 speeds of rotation
Reverse rotation button for the beads
Firm yet soft jelly rubber
Waterproof

Waterproof Jack Rabbit is one of the most popular sex toys in the world. This Cal Exotics rabbit vibrator has rotating shaft with metal beads that perfectly tickle the vaginal walls and rotate whichever way you want at the push of the reverse rotation button. The shaft is large enough to give that exciting feeling of fullness. Fun in and out of the water, Waterproof Jack Rabbit knows how to pleasure a woman ;)

Platinum Jack Rabbit Vibrator

7 vibration functions for the rabbit
6 speeds of shaft rotation
Non-jamming metal beads
Automatic off button
Waterproof
Body-safe

Platinum Jack Rabbit Vibrator is a precious masterpiece by California Exotics. This rabbit vibrator has everything to win a woman’s love and appreciation. Multi-speed and multi-functional, Platinum Jack Rabbit is blessed with 6 speeds of shaft rotation and 7 vibration types for the rabbit! Platinum Jack Rabbit is skin-safe, phthalates-free, and waterproof for fun in the bath or shower. Dedicated to simultaneous vaginal and clitoral pleasure, Platinum Jack Rabbit is great for everyone – whether you’re a beginner or experienced. Choose silver or gold Platinum Jack Rabbit and enjoy its sexual power at the push of a button!

Decadent Indulgence 3 Rabbit Vibrator

Vibrating, rotating, escalating, pulsating action
Tri-point elephant-shaped clitoral stimulator
5 levels and patterns of vibration and escalation
3 clitoral vibration patterns, each with 10 speeds
10 speeds of shaft rotation
Glow in the dark controls
Phthalates free, hypo-allergenic
100% satisfaction is guaranteed

Decadent Indulgence 3 is a part of California Exotic Decadent Indulgence Rabbit Vibrators collection: the original Decadent Indulgence, Decadent Indulgence 2 and Ultimate Decadent Indulgence. Decadent Indulgence 3 is a fabulous rabbit vibrator that never fails to please to the fullest. If you have a hard time achieving the big “O”, give a try to Decadent Indulgence 3. A truly amazing sex toy that is equipped with multiple functions and various speeds for you to experiment with sensations. Decadent Indulgence 3 is too good for words – it’s just a must have rabbit vibrator for every lady out there. 100% clitoral, g-spot and vaginal satisfaction is guaranteed.

Total Ecstasy Triple Stimulator Vibrator

Vaginal, clitoral and anal stimulation at once
5 vibration speeds, 5 rotation speeds
Vibrating slim 3″ anal stimulator
Multi-speed powerful vibration
Rabbit shaped clitoral stimulator
Penis head with ribbed neck

Total Ecstasy Triple Stimulator – as the name suggests this Pipedream rabbit vibrator is dedicated to bring you triple stimulation: vaginal, clitoral and anal pleasure at once! Swirled anal stimulator and clitoral rabbit are waiting to excite and tease your hottest spots. Packed with great functions and blessed with stunning look, Total Ecstasy Triple Stimulator is an all-in-one vibrator sex toy that is both physical and visual fun. Works well for the more experienced.

Orgasmic Foreplay Vibrator Kit 1

Multi-speed rotating rabbit vibrator
Multi-use slender probe sleeve
Removable bullet with handheld speed controls
Pleasure beads rotate clockwise or counter-clockwise
Penis shaped head with ridged neck
Multi-purpose and feminine vibrator kit

Orgasmic Foreplay Kit 1 is an awesome kit that contains a multi-speed rotating rabbit vibrator, multi-use probe sleeve and removable micro-bullet. This Cal Exotics vibrator kit can perfectly spice up your lovemaking and any sexual activity. Good size of each item and feminine look make the kit a very nice choice for beginners. You can also check out Orgasmic foreplay kit 2, which is designed for more experienced users. Have fun!

Merry Christmas & Happy New Year 2011! It’s a perfect time for giving and receiving gifts. Pamper yourself and your loved ones with SEX TOY GIFTS! See you soon with end of year round-up post!

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